Building positive feelings should come naturally and should not be a struggle. Living our life in a normal way puts us in various situations: some good or some bad but at the end of the day it's important what we take out of them. We feel best when we are able to be who we actually are even when less joyful or difficult things happen. As said before some things cannot be change but we can change our attitude when we refer to them.
It is important to be curious and open. Learn the art of being open-minded. Which means that sometimes you should follow the path that makes you curious, even if you need to get out of your comfort zone. Let go to rigid expectations, or worse don't stop trying something just because you have a well build set of negative ideas about it. Remember that your expectations have the power to shape your experiences. For example you have been invited to a party, and you know that there will be only couples there and you are going to go alone. You will start to feel frustrated just because you have the impression the couples speak a different language. So if your expectation is negative the party has lots of chances to become a negative experience. Don't let your thoughts stop you to have a good time! In this party situation you forgot that in order to have a couple you need two individuals and this way you missed the chance of experiencing something (possibly) interesting . It is all about how you prepare yourself for all the events or daily moments of your life.
Remember that curiosity is the engine of well-being. If you want to be happy you need to know what makes you happy, what makes you better, what gives you pleasure and most important who you are. You need to understand that sometimes not knowing what you want or what makes you happy stays in the way of your real happiness. If you want to live in a bigger world you just need to start being curious about everything, starting with yourself.
A way to increase your day-to-day happiness is to be thankful and grateful for what you have and start to appreciate it more. Self-awareness is really important. Do not take thinks for granted. Think of it as positive reinforcement ( involves the addition of a reinforcing stimulus following a behavior
that makes it more likely that the behavior will occur again in the
future).
Don't be afraid to express gratitude and to be kind with people around you. Saying please and thank you is not such a hard thing. Learn to care.
Another important thing is to make time for people. Spend time with friends and family and don't forget to surround yourself with positive people or be the one who sends positive vibes in your group. All of these things will help you keep you positive feelings on track. And if during this journey you can still be real, I am sure you've learned what positivity means.
Stay positive!
W.P
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