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The Secret Power of Time

When it comes about time we have two options. The first option and the most obvious one is to measure it in seconds, hours, days, months, years and so on. The second options is to give it a significance. But how do we give time that importance?

Being present in your life, being there when things happen is the only way to enjoy your existence. We need to understand that our happiness and well being are affected by our relationship with time: past, present and future. Is like having three children and maintaining positive relationships with all three. First you need to accept them for what they are, second you need to enjoy every moment of their life and third is to dream and send positive vibes towards their future existence.

Creating healthy relationships with these three perspectives of time will help you develop. Is like keeping a positive relationship with your past while enjoying every moment of your present and keeping one eye open for the future. You need somehow to keep a balance. Do not be too focus on the past, the past cannot be change.The only thing that we can do about it is to give it a new significance. To relive it in a different manner. If you manage to have a positive perspective of the past, it will give you lovely memories and an identity defined by happiness and a meaningful childhood. Having a negative perspective of the past  means that every time you think about your past you see only bad experiences or you feel sad,unhappy or frustrated by things that you cannot change. Having this attitude towards the past is a waste of time and also a road with an end in your evolution. You need to learn when to move on and to accept things that can't be change. Remember being nostalgic is positive while being fearful and haunted is not only negative but also damaging.

Now about present. Being really happy with your present life and present perspectives defines you as a present hedonistic person. Psychology defines hedonistic is the doctrine holding that behavior is motivated by the desire for pleasure and the avoidance of pain. Simply said it is the devotion to pleasure all your senses. The opposite of the present hedonistic person is the present fatalist person. This type of person feels without control over his/her life and will give a big significance to fate. The concept of fate if is not understood will give you no reason to engage with life or to have any autonomy over your life.

If you are a future orientated person it means that you have goals, purpose and direction in life. But you need again to find the balance so you don't forget to enjoy the present.

Being unique and having the freedom gives us the possibility to change what is not working, to accept what cannot be change, develop even the smallest positive idea and to be happy and grateful with what we have.

 Happiness can be both immediate or lasting is our option to prefer one over the other. Now some pieces of advice:

• stop comparing what you have with what other people have
• lower your expectation so if something great happen your happiness will increase 
• be grateful with what you have
• accept and stay near what you have chosen
• limit your choices for better decisions

Important: Your happiness is affected by your relationship to time

                  Too much choice can affect your happiness    

Stay positive!

W.P

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The mind chatter

 Some of you might not know what a mind chatter is, but what I can promise is that all of us have experience it. Some of you are experiencing it in this really moment. To be more precise we can explain the mind chatter as that a voice from inside that never, never, never stops.

For example imagine you are on a date and your partner is talking about something less interesting for your, or maybe you just had a busy day at work and you can not follow.Your body language shows that you are listening, meanwhile your mind is building a bridge of ideas, and not a wooden one but a steel one and the noise is unbearable. You hear things like : I don't actually know what I am doing here¨- or,- he is so boring, but the restaurant is good so  I think I might order a steak...am I wearing the right outfit. 

Now that you got the point let's go down the road and imagine your mind as a parallel universe in which things happen hundred times faster, an universe in which the same voice can enter different ears, transmitting different signals at a distance of less then 2 seconds. Like ten radios tight up to a single pillar in the center of the busiest market presenting bad news that will affect the population of that city straight away.The radios will be on for not more then 5 minutes. Can you imagine that? Can you imagine the chaos in that market, the expressions on their faces, all the fears that were brought to life?

Exactly like the radios, the mind chatter makes us worry when there's no need, makes us doubt ourselves when we should feel confident, it makes us feel the fear and we all know that fear is the most damaging feeling. 

The mind chatter can't be stopped unless you are a Buddhist monk with years of meditation experience. But there is something that we can do. We can redirect our thoughts and make them positive. We can meditate over a single idea. We can train our mind to talk and to listen, we can draw a path to follow. Is like when we were in school and we learned to rephrase. The principle is the same, if the thought is negative repeat it until it becomes positive. Try not to use negative signs, instead of saying: I hope it won't rain today say I hope it will be a sunny day today.

Meditation is the key in order to control your mind. Stay quite and listen to your thoughts. Thoughts are like signals, and bad thoughts are like gossip, they travel fast. Positive thoughts are like plants, they are beautiful but if you don't nurture them they will die fast.

Do not be afraid to stay alone and listen to your thoughts!

As Confucius says : Action should be taken before a thing has made its appearance; order should be secured before disorder has begun.

Stay positive!

W.P 

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